Deaths Deborah "Taj" Anapol

Passing of Deborah “Taj” Anapol

Dear Polyamory Community,

It is with a heavy heart that I bring the sad news that Deborah “Taj” Anapol has passed away. She was a major trailblazer for the modern polyamory movement, a sacred sex teacher, a spokesperson for polyamory, the author of one of the first public hed books on polyamory,Love Without Limits and one of the founders of Loving More® Magazine (along with Ryam Nearing) in 1994. Apparently she died in her sleep in Ireland, where she was getting ready to host an intensive workshop this weekend.

Deborah/Taj was outspoken and rocked the boat on monogamy before many of our current polyamory activists were even born. She was a pioneer in use of the internet to bring people together through IntiNet Resource Center (IRC) which published a long-running newsletter named Floodtide.

Love Without Limits was the first book on polyamory I ever read (it was all that was available at the time) and gave me tremendous hope. My personal favorite book she authored was Seven Spiritual Laws of Love.

For me, personally, Taj was someone I admired for her tenacity, a trait we share, and her willingness to keep going despite the hardship financially and personally that being a polyamory activist can bring. I have always felt a great deal of respect for her and gratitude for her part in founding Loving More. Without the work she, Ryam and others gave from their heart, most of us wouldn’t be experiencing polyamory as it is today!

I often feel that many younger polyamorists have no idea of the amazing people like Taj who blazed a trail for us to be pioneers in relationships. Taj was a spiritual person and I truly hope that, wherever she is, she knows how much her works and writings have helped so many and that the love she gave to so many through her writing and teaching are greatly appreciated. She will be greatly missed, always remembered for her amazing work and the legacy that she left behind.

If I get permission, I will share the letter I received about her passing.

Love & Light,

Robyn Trask
Loving More

Deborah Taj Anapol (1951-2015) was an American clinical psychologist and one of the founders of the polyamory movement,[1] which started in the 1980s.[2] Known for her work in erotic spirituality, ecosex,[3] neotantra and Pelvic Heart Integration,[4][better source needed] she was an advocate for multiple love and sacred sexuality. Her work made early use of the Internet to gather and organize like-minded people. She was also the co-founder of the magazine, Loving More[5] and its conferences. She wrote one of the first books on polyamory, Love Without Limits (1992); which was expanded and reissued as Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits, in 1997. An expert columnist for Psychology Today,[6] she blogged at “Love Without Limits, Reports from the relationship frontier.”[7]

Anapol was a pioneer in opening the way for a diversity of form in healthy relationships,[8] and received the “Vicki” Award from the Woodhull Freedom Foundation for her work affirming sexual freedom as a fundamental human right.[9]


Anapol appeared on radio and television shows, such as Donahue, Leeza, Real Personal, Jerry Springer, and Sally Jesse Raphael.[10] She taught workshops internationally in subjects such as Pelvic Heart Integration and Polyamory.

Pelvic Heart Integration[edit]

Pelvic Heart Integration[11] is a synthesis of neo-Reichian breathwork, body work, energy work, psychodrama, trauma work, body reading and neotantra and was developed by bodyworker Dr. Jack Painter.[12]

Deborah Anapol died suddenly in England on 18 August, 2015.[13]



Anapol is the author of several books:


Anapol has created a 3-part DVD video entitled, “Pelvic Heart Integration.”[14]


  1. Jump up^ “Deborah Anapol’s Return”. Polyamorous Percolations: Polyamory in the News!. Retrieved May 8, 2010.
  2. Jump up^ Anapol, Deborah. “Why Do People Choose Polyamory?”. Psychology Today. Retrieved August 23, 2010.
  3. Jump up^ “Ecosex Summit”.
  4. Jump up^ “Postural Integration”. Wikipedia.
  5. Jump up^ “Loving More”. Loving More Non-profit.
  6. Jump up^ “Psychology Today: Experts- Deborah Anapol, Ph. D”. Psychology Today.
  7. Jump up^ “Love Without Limits: Reports from the relationship frontier”. Psychology Today.
  8. Jump up^ Anapol, Deborah (Summer 1985). “Polygamy: Another Lovestyle”. Context Institute: Friends and Lovers.
  9. Jump up^ “Only One Week Till Sexual Freedom Day in D.C.”. AVN Media Network. September 16, 2010.
  10. Jump up^ “Promoting Intimacy and Other-Centered Sexuality”. Liberated Christians. 1997.
  11. Jump up^ “Love Without Limits”.
  12. Jump up^ “Jack Painter- Obituary” (PDF).
  13. Jump up^ “Poly In The Media”.
  14. Jump up^ “Faculty”. International University of Professional Studies.

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